Christian Family Life Blog

Beau’s Story

Beau’s Story

I’ve got a dream For the longest time I had a nightly dream of a little boy sitting in a stroller. I couldn’t see his face, but I could see his dark hair. Everyone in the dream was calling him “Beau.” This recurrence led to Chris and I having a serious conversation...

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Making Disciples

Making Disciples

In our curriculum “Two Becoming One” the three purposes of marriage are taught. #1. Reflect His image on earth. #2. Reproduce a Godly heritage. #3. Reign in spiritual warfare. In today’s blog, we are going to discuss the second purpose, reproducing a Godly heritage....

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Four Pillars of Intimacy

Four Pillars of Intimacy

Gio Llerena When it comes to intimacy within a marriage, most people think of just physical intimacy.  Our culture has really conditioned us to think this way through social media, movies, books, etc. It has missed a huge part of a holistic approach towards intimacy. ...

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Finding JOY in your Marriage

Finding JOY in your Marriage

Roland Martinez What is Joy? Joy as defined by Merriam Webster online, “the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires: Delight.” What emotions are evoked in you when you think about your marriage?  If...

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Endurance in Marriage

Endurance in Marriage

Gray Foshee Understanding Endurance “Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into...

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Building Collaborative Relationships

Building Collaborative Relationships

Dr. Amy Trout Building and maintaining healthy relationships can be challenging. It can be helpful to focus on the three essential components of any relationship: The Self, The Other, and The We. By understanding and nurturing these aspects, you can contribute towards...

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Hurry Up and Wait

Hurry Up and Wait

Gray Foshee A Society of Instant Gratification  Speed date. Eat fast food. Use the self-checkout lines in grocery stores. "One weekend" diet. Pay extra for overnight shipping. Honk when the light turns green. Speak in half sentences. Start things but don't finish...

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Did I Marry The Right Person?

Did I Marry The Right Person?

Shelly Foshee One of the greatest struggles I had early on in my marriage was questioning myself about missing the mark. Did I marry the wrong person? When Gray and I got married, we were pregnant. We came from a pretty legalistic upbringing. The situation we found...

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Fully Truth & Grace

Fully Truth & Grace

Gray Foshee Timothy Keller says, “Truth without grace is not really truth and grace without truth is not really grace”. Let that sink in for a moment. John 1:14-17 And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from...

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Freedom Of Acceptance

Freedom Of Acceptance

Shelly Foshee Recently we attended a wedding. Part of the vows repeated were “I promise to do my best to love and accept you exactly as you are”. At first my thought was, “we never want to stay the same. We always want to grow  and become more like Christ.” But...

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Who Am I?

Who Am I?

Gio Llerena Nicknames I’ve always been interested in where nicknames come from.  From what I can tell, they often are a result of something you have done, or an event that identifies you. Our family enjoys sports and so naturally I’m drawn to the nicknames given...

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Shame

Shame

Genesis 2 The last words of Genesis 2 reads, "the man and his wife were both naked and unashamed." When this is read, it should be interpreted as the man and wife living, abiding in, complete freedom. This word naked in the Hebrew means "to be exposed". It relates to...

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Unforgiveness, the Paralyzing Choice

Unforgiveness, the Paralyzing Choice

Gray Foshee What hinders our relationship with God? Matthew 6:14-15 says “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive you”. It is impossible...

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Baseline:  Is Your Marriage Normal?

Baseline:  Is Your Marriage Normal?

Roland Martinez Is your marriage normal?  What defines normal and what authority or assessment gets to determine what a great marriage is?  Marriage is a journey filled with thrilling moments and times of utter despair. Therefore, it’s important to look outside of...

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Take Out The Trash!

Take Out The Trash!

Shelly Foshee In March of 2023, my husband (Gray) and I (Shelly) attended a marriage retreat. Yes, marriage missionaries attend retreats and conferences. Every marriage needs to be investing into the gift God has given them in each other. We watched God move...

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Having Difficult Conversations!

Having Difficult Conversations!

Gio Llerena   Conversations There are so many different conversations that Suzy and I engage in everyday. For the most part they are easy. They are focused on pleasantries and tasks to be accomplished. But every so often, there are conversations that need to be leaned...

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How to Grow a Thriving Marriage

Marissa Pierce   Intro With the dreary winter days giving way to the warm, sunny days of spring, finalizing garden plans has begun. For the first few years of our marriage, we lived in an apartment. When we moved into a home with a backyard last year, the years worth...

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“I Want to Hold your Hand”

“I Want to Hold your Hand”

Will and Cindy Goff Our Song The year was 1963, “Beatlemania” was all the rage in pop culture. (Not unlike what we are observing today with Taylor Swift’s following of Swifties!) Will and I were in high school as the Beatles stormed America. It was predictable that...

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Marriage Through the Decades

Marriage Through the Decades

Love endures while lessons are learned Marriage continues to be the cornerstone of our culture and society.  No matter what attacks the enemy devises to steal, kill, and ultimately attempt to destroy God’s original design. God’s plan of redemption is always in play. ...

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Telling My Story with Theirs

Telling My Story with Theirs

Roland and Tammy MartinezBrandon and Lauren Piner Our Story I (Tammy) knew the Lord had called me into ministry. Having no idea what that was going to look like, I knew I wanted to go to a Christian college and major in Elementary Education to one day work in a...

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Always and Forever

Always and Forever

Our Times We grew up in the 70’s and 80’s. This placed us in the era of roe vs. wade. Michael Jackson and Diana Ross were center stage in the music realm. Cell phones came out in the mid 80’s, forever changing the way we communicate. What I remember most as I look...

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Gotta Get You Into My Life

Gotta Get You Into My Life

Our Story: Ian and Nickie Connell, married 25 years 10/16/24 Our Times Ian and I are both in our 70’s. When we were just entering adulthood, the Vietnam war had just ended, and everyone was searching for peace. This was the time that Woodstock made history. Sex,...

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Got Questions?

Got Questions?

Recently we did a marriage conference with a ministry and we ended the evening with a Q&A session. We had asked the couples at the beginning of the day to be thinking about questions they might have regarding marriage. Anything was on the table. Ask it and we’ll...

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Healthy Tensions

Healthy Tensions

My husband (Gray) and I (Shelly) have been married for 40 years now and I can almost promise you that at some point today we will have a disagreement. Sometimes these disagreements are resolved within minutes with just a small amount of effort. Other times the...

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Christ-Centered #CoupleGoals

Christ-Centered #CoupleGoals

Aligning Your Journey with God’s Purpose for Marriage Social Media has a way of inspiring us to do and try things we didn't think were possible. We type in the search bar and scour Pinterest, TikTok, or Instagram for new and creative ideas. One of the trends involves...

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The Gift of Generosity

The Gift of Generosity

The gift of generosity is just that … a gift - the giving of something notable without compensation. There has been no greater demonstration of the gift of generosity than when God sent His son Jesus to this earth. When we think of generosity in the context of...

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Navigating FAITH Love

Navigating FAITH Love

How to recognize toxicity and move towards connection in marriage Moving from a performance-based relationship to one that is FAITH-based will ensure the oneness in marriage every person longs to have. However, any concept, when taken to the extreme or misinterpreted,...

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Leaving an Unforgettable Mark

Leaving an Unforgettable Mark

The world today runs at breakneck speeds. The demands on every aspect of our lives can exhaust us. This weariness can lead to a feeling of emptiness and ingratitude that spirals in such a way that our overall well-being is compromised. However, gratitude can make a...

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Water Your Own Garden

Water Your Own Garden

When Ryan and I were newly engaged, I remember being so excited to be married and swooning over my new and shiny ring that I couldn't help but stare at it all the time. I guess it was obvious, because many people were kind and noticed my ring (or possibly me staring...

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What Are You Thinking?

What Are You Thinking?

Have you ever thought about something long enough that it basically became true to you? Have you ever thought that you told your spouse something, only because you had thought about it so much? Then defended yourself, standing firm on what you believed in that moment,...

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Thankfulness For Your Spouse

Thankfulness For Your Spouse

Expression of Thankfulness Charles Schwab said “The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.” I (Shelly) believe that most of us are thankful for our spouses. What I would wonder is how many of us tell our spouse the thoughts...

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Boundaries in Friendships

Boundaries in Friendships

This blog brought to you by Zach and Abi Schneider, friends of our ministry. The privilege of having people in your life that lift you up, cheer you on, and walk through life with you is a true gift from the Lord. But how do you maintain close friendships while you...

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Boundaries with Children

Boundaries with Children

My (Suzy) husband (Gio) went to a camp growing up called Circle C Youth Ranch. The logo was that of a circle with a “C” in the center of it. He said he never really gave it much thought until years later. The “C” stood for Christ and He was to be the center of our...

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Boundaries With Work

Boundaries With Work

Have you ever struggled with finding workplace boundaries? Have there been times in your life when your job has consumed you? If you are like me and many others, the answer is a resounding “YES”. I would like to share with you some important nuggets of truth that...

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Wrestling Hurricanes

Wrestling Hurricanes

We were given permission from Tiffany Haines, the author of “Wrestling Hurricanes” to use this word-for-word excerpt from chapter 6 of her book. Tiffany and her husband Brad, joined us for an informative podcast for us on this subject. Be sure to check it out here! If...

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Goal Setting

Goal Setting

Several years ago, my husband (Gray), read an article that had shared research on the importance of writing your goals down. This specific study was on college graduations and their life goals. I cannot honestly remember the percentage (I believe it is in the 90%...

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How to Bring Money & Marriage Together

How to Bring Money & Marriage Together

After years of working with pro athletes I’ve learned a thing or two about money and its effect on our behavior. These lessons apply to all of us. 1) Money has power because it promises what it cannot deliver. Meaning, money tends to let us down – no purchase or...

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The Case for God in Our Money

The Case for God in Our Money

This blog about money is brought to you by a friend of the ministry, Connor Lowery, CFP®, CPA, CWS®, Financial Advisor, Professional Athlete Division, Ronald Blue Trust. When you hear or read the word “money”, emotions rush to the surface. I encourage you to take a...

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Milestones

Milestones

Milestones. What are they? The first definition of milestone that I found is “a stone set up beside a road to mark the distance of miles to a particular place”. In a sense, we set up stones to reach personal destinations. We set goals for our families, goals for our...

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Trails and Trials

Trails and Trials

This blog brought to you by Paul and Tara Dye, friends of our ministry. My husband and I love to hike. We enjoy taking in the great outdoors with all of our senses. Seeing the trees and flowers all around. Feeling the solid earth beneath our feet. Smelling the scents...

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Trials: The Fragrant Joy of Suffering

Trials: The Fragrant Joy of Suffering

This blog brought to you by Zach and Abi Schneider, friends of our ministry. Trials are more than just tough, they can be suffocating. And then doubts run through your mind. “I can’t be strong enough to handle this. God wouldn’t do this to me. What if I never make it...

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Communication: A Journey Toward Intimacy

Communication: A Journey Toward Intimacy

Hello, Will and Cindy Goff, friends of CFL here! Initial disclaimer for those reading this blog - the information shared has not always been adhered to in our marriage! For many years, we did not follow God’s plan. We were not believers…we were two individuals living...

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The Power of our Words

The Power of our Words

Have you considered the weight and power of your words? Especially as it relates to your spouse. Remember the old saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.” How about, “Think before you speak.” This one might be a favorite, “Better to be...

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From Conflict to Intimacy

From Conflict to Intimacy

Communication is a tool that can either divide or bring a couple closer. As couples, many times everyone else receives the best parts of us and we give each other the leftovers. With each cross, critical, or hurtful communication we are making withdrawals from our...

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Seven Ways to Love Your Spouse

Seven Ways to Love Your Spouse

5 Markers of a Healthy Relationship “Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind. 9 Do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may...

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Fully Known and Fully Loved

Fully Known and Fully Loved

"Love is not blind; that is the last thing that it is. Love is bound; and the more it is bound the less it is blind." G.K. Chesterton We’ve all heard it, “Love is blind.” Is it really though? Should it be? While Tammy and I love each other, we are not blind to the...

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The Power Source for Your Marriage

The Power Source for Your Marriage

Have you ever attended a marriage conference, retreat, or seminar? Taking copious notes, you have every intention of applying every amazing insight you heard. You find yourself “in love” again and you experience a closeness you haven’t felt in a while. You hope to...

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Just Give Up

Just Give Up

I don’t know about you, but I converse with myself daily. Oftentimes these conversations are me arguing with myself after conflict in my marriage. Take for example the other day. I was in the kitchen and Gio (my husband) walked in and said “How can I help you?” I had...

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Seek the Lord Together

Seek the Lord Together

Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ...

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How’s Your Prayer Life – Together?

How’s Your Prayer Life – Together?

Hopefully your response to that question isn’t “Here we go, and yet another thing we are not doing in our marriage.” Instead, let this question be a good reminder that taking time to pray together is a practice that strengthens your marriage. Let’s take a deep breath...

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Did I Marry the Right Person? Our Story

Did I Marry the Right Person? Our Story

Did I marry the right person? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Perhaps while you were dating you were so sure you wanted to spend the rest of your life with that person. Then again, maybe you observed red flags and ignored them. It could be that you thought...

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What Your Spouse Needs from You: One Thing

What Your Spouse Needs from You: One Thing

Have you ever picked up a magazine and read front page titles along the lines of, “10 Vital Things My Spouse Needs From Me”, “5 Actions You Can Take Today That Will Fulfill Your Spouse’s Needs”, “If You Satisfy These 3 Needs, You Will Have a Happy Wife/Husband”? This...

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Muscle Up to Effective Communication

Muscle Up to Effective Communication

My (Roland) future son in law (engaged to my daughter Abi), Zach recently showed me a video of him doing a muscle up. What is a muscle up, you ask? Well, it’s a CrossFit exercise that is extremely difficult to accomplish. If I attempted a muscle up it would most...

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It’s Time to Leave and Cleave

It’s Time to Leave and Cleave

For some people change is hard, for others it’s what they love. Wherever you land on that statement, the reality is that when you get married, there will be changes. One big one is that it's time to leave and cleave. I don’t think you can adequately cover all the...

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Spiritual Intimacy by Faith

Spiritual Intimacy by Faith

Suzy and I often say, “Marriage is the best thing we have done, and it is also the most difficult thing we have done.” And perhaps having and raising children comes in a close second!! The reason we believe it is difficult is because we are two sinful people coming...

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Sex – Is it ok to say the word?

Sex – Is it ok to say the word?

“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”Hebrews 13:4 Here we go! Let’s talk about sex. It doesn’t have to be awkward, but let’s be honest, it can be very awkward. Sadly,...

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Work through CONFLICT

Work through CONFLICT

Is conflict wreaking havoc in your marriage? Do you feel distant from your spouse and wonder if you’ll ever feel close again? Do you long for resolution to the points of contention in your marriage? True closeness and companionship can seem elusive, but let’s...

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Exposing Unhealthy Conflict

Exposing Unhealthy Conflict

The bedroom door shut behind him and Brian sat on the edge of the bed in the dark. Face in his hands he wondered, “This is not working anymore. How am I going to love Linda for the rest of our lives? I just hurt her so badly … so, so badly. What is wrong with me?”...

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Embrace it! When conflict is good.

Embrace it! When conflict is good.

“Conflict is not merely inevitable it is necessary if one wants to grow both character and the depth of a marriage.”Dan Allender “He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you except to be just, and to love [and to diligently practice]...

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Missions through Marriage: Where?

Missions through Marriage: Where?

Ready to join the team and be a part of missions through marriage? “How then will they call on him in whom they have not believed? And how are they to believe in him of whom they have never heard? How are they to hear without someone preaching? And how are they to...

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Missions through Marriage: Why?

Missions through Marriage: Why?

Clean water, feeding the hungry, putting shoes on children’s feet, holding Vacation Bible School and backyard Bible clubs, sports camps, medical missions, and holding orphans are all amazing ways to be the hands and feet of Jesus. Can you add to the list? Isn’t being...

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Missions Through Marriage: What is It?

Missions Through Marriage: What is It?

We are so excited to get the conversation going on this topic! Let’s start here… Think of all the platforms we use as believers to share the good news of the greatest story ever told. God’s love for us demonstrated through the sinless life, death, burial, and...

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Are you in Rebellion?

Are you in Rebellion?

“Arise, awake, or be forever fall’n” Paradise Lost This blog speaks to those who feel they are at a crossroads in their marriage and need to make a choice to either turn back toward their spouse or continue drifting further away because they feel there is no hope....

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Can We Be Real?

Can We Be Real?

Many couples do a great job masking the dysfunction that exists at home. What seems to those on the outside as a match made in heaven is really a home filled with resentment, disappointment and regret with seemingly no way out. If we are on social media, we’ve seen...

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Don’t Wait to Seek Help

Don’t Wait to Seek Help

“Nobody understands what we’re going through!”“I had no idea being married would be this hard!”“I don’t know if things will ever change!” The Stages In the Two Becoming One resource, we talk about the four stages of marital decline: Romance, Reality, Resentment, and...

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When Reality Hits

When Reality Hits

This week we are going to talk about the second stage of marital decline, the stage where most couples live. It’s not bad; it’s just a stage that we find ourselves in day to day, and it is unavoidable. We call it Reality! I think deep down inside, most people know...

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The Pursuit of Romance

The Pursuit of Romance

As we enter the month of February, we would like to walk you through what we call the four main stages of marital decline. We will take each week's blog to break down the stages to help you better understand where your marriage is and to be better equipped to navigate...

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Humility in Marriage

Humility in Marriage

By Josh and Tammy Russ. Humility, such a big pill to swallow. After all, showing humility is a sign of weakness, right? That is what I was taught growing up. Many of you have had this modeled in your lives. Men should never show a moment of weakness... men are strong...

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The Mystery of Two Becoming One

The Mystery of Two Becoming One

Written by Donovan Law. God often chooses interesting moments to reveal the deep mysteries of life. One of those moments happened with a group of Christian brothers in the lobby of a Hospice House. My wife of twenty-four years and mother of two boys was spending her...

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“Easy Like Sunday Morning”?

“Easy Like Sunday Morning”?

Written By: Roland and Tammy Martinez I don't know if any of you have heard recently that we have been lied to about divorce rates in the church...(https://ifstudies.org/blog/regular-church-attenders-marry-more-and-divorce-less-than-their-less-devout-peers) It turns...

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Seeing Your Spouse as God’s Gift

Seeing Your Spouse as God’s Gift

Written by: Josh and Tammy Russ. When we think of a gift, we typically think of a special occasion such as a birthday, Christmas, or anniversary.  There is a purpose, event, or reason that we think of someone in particular and what kind of gift he/she would like...

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The Key to a Great Marriage

The Key to a Great Marriage

Written by: Gio and Suzy Llerena. John 14:26 says, “But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you.” Starting Out Great When Gio and I (Suzy) were first talking...

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Lies That Can Kill Your Marriage

Lies That Can Kill Your Marriage

Written by: Josh and Tammy Russ. Lies, in their very nature, have the tendency to destroy whatever is in their path.  This includes but isn’t limited to relationships, careers, dreams, goals, parenting, etc.  Marriage is no exception, and we hope that by...

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How to Keep Your Identity in Marriage

How to Keep Your Identity in Marriage

Written by: Josh and Tammy Russ. Tammy and I were married at a fairly young age. I was almost 20. She was already 20 (which remains a little joke we have between us). We were literally just beginning to figure out who we were as individuals and also who we were going...

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God’s Three Purposes for Your Marriage

God’s Three Purposes for Your Marriage

Written by: Chuck and Lorianne Merritt. When asked why we’re marrying, a typical response might be, ‘Because she’s the perfect match for me,’ or, ‘We have so many things in common,’ or, ‘He’s everything I want in a husband.’ There’s no question that God uses our...

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Did I Marry the Right Person?

Did I Marry the Right Person?

Written by: Stephen and Emeline Bellaire. "Did I Marry the Right Person?" Those were the words I (Stephen) had rushing through my mind like a freight train on New Year’s Day at 12:30 AM. I did not sleep a wink that night. I was in anguish and in total survival mode. I...

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We Refuse Divorce BUT We’re Still Stuck

We Refuse Divorce BUT We’re Still Stuck

Written by: Gio and Suzy Llerena. It’s hard to believe Suzy and I just celebrated 27 years of marriage! As we’ve looked back at those years, we’ve sat and discussed the good, the bad, and the ugly! We've learnd a lot about what it means to be husband and wife over the...

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The 4 Stages of Marriage

The 4 Stages of Marriage

Written by: Gio and Suzy Llerena. All marriage relationships go through ebbs and flows throughout their time together. We certainly remember those wonderful times when we had no cares in the world. We also remember those times that were difficult, when we didn’t...

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Your Marriage Needs Communication!

Your Marriage Needs Communication!

Written by: Gio and Suzy Llerena. When looking at the structure of a house, the strength of the foundation is vital to support the load of the entire house, and the walls are key to supporting the weight of the roof. The roof is important as it keeps what...

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Your Marriage Needs Power!

Your Marriage Needs Power!

Written by: Roland and Tammy Martinez. If Tozer’s quote could be true about some local churches, what could be said about our marriages or our homes? Scripture is clear we can quench and grieve the Holy Spirit. The life of a Christ follower should be characterized by...

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Selfish-Pride: The Marriage Killer

Selfish-Pride: The Marriage Killer

Written by Special Guest Contributors: Gio and Suzy Llerena. Suzy and I have been married almost 27 years. If we were to try and pinpoint the one area that Satan has used the most to attack our marriage it would have to be selfish- pride.  John Maxwell puts it...

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My Marriage Needs…?

My Marriage Needs…?

Written by: Roland and Tammy Martinez. What does your marriage need? Maybe acceptance, security, trust, kindness, peace, a tender touch, a listening ear, or companionship? These all seem like reasonable expectations until we realize our needs differ from our spouse’s...

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Christmas is a Time to Celebrate

Christmas is a Time to Celebrate

Christmas is my favorite holiday of the year. The weather is colder, the decorations are beautiful, the food is great, the time off work is a needed rest, and time with family and friends is plentiful. Unless it’s 2020 and then you have lots of ‘zoom’ family time....

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Give Thanks…For Your Spouse

Give Thanks…For Your Spouse

During the month of November, it has become a regular practice on social media to post something we are thankful for every day. People post about all types of things from a job, to a city, to a season or type of weather. One year we did a ‘Thanksgiving Tree’ and we...

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The Presence of the Spirit brings Peace

The Presence of the Spirit brings Peace

Two emotions have dominated our year more than any other – Fear and Anxiety. These emotions have been a 1-2 punch to the gut of millions…if not billions of people dealing with a global pandemic and so much uncertainty. The health of our marriages can be profoundly...

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Money Problems & Marriage Stress

Money Problems & Marriage Stress

Written by Special Guest Contributor: Alan Morgan. God can use this time of uncertainty and crisis as an opportunity to expose and bring to light financial struggles with your spouse. Now is the time to press into these issues and experience real freedom and healing....

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Joy in Marriage During Tough Times

Joy in Marriage During Tough Times

Written by Special Guest Contributor: Cindy Goff. Recently I've been humming the childhood Sunday school song, “I've got the joy, joy, joy, joy down in my heart”. All together now, "WHERE?" "Down in my heart!"...you probably know the rest. Now you'll be humming...

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What “fruit” are you bearing?

What “fruit” are you bearing?

Written by Special Guest Contributor: Cindy Goff. “But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith-fulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.: Galatians 5:22-23 For many years, I had little...

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Hope, Where are You?

Hope, Where are You?

Written by Special Guest Contributor: Cindy Goff This time of quarantine is difficult for so many.  I find myself distant from those I love.  My lens appears to have a filter clouding my view.  Normal routines and bigger dreams appear to be on hold or...

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Practicing Kindness in Marriage

Practicing Kindness in Marriage

Kindness is the fifth fruit of the Spirit.  Kindness goes along way toward fueling enduring love between spouses. We continue with our look at the expressions of the Fruit of the Spirit in a believer’s life. (Fruit of the Spirit Blog post 5 of 9)Few things can spark...

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Developing Patience in Your Marriage

Developing Patience in Your Marriage

Patience is the fourth fruit of the Spirit. In marriage, when a husband and wife are patient with each other, they will experience peace and be blessed as God continues perfecting their spouse. (Fruit of the Spirit Blog post 4 of 9) On busy days 25,000 people walk the...

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Finding Peace in Your Marriage

Finding Peace in Your Marriage

While life can be chaotic, one of the things we often long for is peace, especially in our marriage. Where does that peace come from? How can we foster that peace in our homes? Read on to find out. Fruit of the Spirit–Peace Four young children made life hectic at the...

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Did I Marry the Right Person?

Did I Marry the Right Person?

Have you or anyone you know ever asked, "Did I marry the right person? How can I know for sure that I did?" We can look at the process that God took Adam through when He created Eve and gather our own conclusions on whether or not we married the right person*. Marry...

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How the Marriage Flame Fades

How the Marriage Flame Fades

After the early days of romance, the marriage relationship can deteriorate if the couple is unaware of the four reasons the flame fades and the proven methods to develop a sustainable marriage. Spoiler alert: don’t read further if unless you’re interested in...

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5 Steps to Resolve Conflict

5 Steps to Resolve Conflict

All marriages at some point or another will have conflict. It's not an "if" there is a conflict; it's "when." These 5 steps to resolve conflict will help your marriage get back on the right track and restore oneness. Resolve Conflict in Your Marriage A recent post on...

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3 Requirements of Effective Communication

3 Requirements of Effective Communication

Effective communication does not come naturally for most couples. It is perhaps one of the most difficult aspects of marriage, especially when we allow our selfish desires control our actions. Follow these 3 requirements for healthy communication in your marriage. “We...

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3 Ways Sex Enriches Your Marriage

3 Ways Sex Enriches Your Marriage

In a Christian marriage, there are three ways sex enriches your relationship: sex creates an exchange of personal knowledge, sex enhances monogamy, and sex encourages deep intimacy. Knowing Each Other If you’ve ever read the King James Version of the Bible, it might...

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Sex in Marriage: Ecstasy or Agony?

Sex in Marriage: Ecstasy or Agony?

Is sex in your marriage ecstasy or agony? Marriage is a covenant between husband, wife, and God, and we’re to grow spiritually as a couple to help us keep the romantic ecstasy of sex alive and avoid the agony that leads to a sexless marriage or divorce. Is Your Sex...

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Are You Cherishing Your Wife?

Are You Cherishing Your Wife?

By cherishing your wife, desiring your wife and loving her character, you are esteeming the “trophy” God has placed in your life and on the way to building a marriage that will last a lifetime. God’s Amazing Gift Remember as a boy when your trophies decorated the room...

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Are You Turning Toward or Away?

Are You Turning Toward or Away?

Connecting with your spouse is a daily choice that you must make. It is your choice in turning toward your spouse to connect or turning away to disconnect. Strong relationships are built incrementally, daily, as one partner will “bid” for connection and another will...

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What is Marriage Oneness?

What is Marriage Oneness?

Oneness in marriage can be an elusive concept, and it is not one that just happens. So what is marriage oneness, and how can you make it happen in your marriage? Oneness and Your Marriage as a Target “There is no subject where error is more dangerous…and discovery...

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6 Reasons Marriages Fail

6 Reasons Marriages Fail

Marriages fail for many reasons, but knowing these 6 primary reasons marriages fail will help you avoid some of the pitfalls common to most couples. All relationships, whether romantic or friendly, start with a basic motivation of attraction. This motivation may focus...

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Facing Trials: Why Me?

Facing Trials: Why Me?

We often asking ourselves, "Why me? Why I am the one facing trials right now?" Though it can be challenging, what we really need to ask is, "What are God's purposes for this trial?" Our Need when Facing Trials "Why me? Why now? Will it ever end?" When faced with...

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Finding Treasure in Marriage

Finding Treasure in Marriage

It is easy to let bitterness and conflict harden our hearts, especially in marriage. Intimacy is hard work and we have to dig for it. Sometimes finding intimacy is like finding buried treasure in marriage. Our Need to be Intimate The Oscar nominated movie About...

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