“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” Ephesians 2:3
As this Christmas season begins, the busyness can quickly take over—shopping for gifts, decorating the house, preparing meals, hosting loved ones, and sending out Christmas cards. While these activities are thoughtful and others-focused, they can unintentionally lead to placing extra demands on your spouse.
When I reflect on Ephesians 2:3 or Philippians 2:3-4, which says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others,” I often think about applying these verses to everyone in my life—friends, family, coworkers—everyone BUT my spouse. This is not a result of intentionally thinking about devaluing my spouse. But rather, it is a result of failing to view them as God’s perfect, personal provision.
At Christian Family Life, we encourage couples to view their marriage through the lens of FAITH—a love rooted not in performance but in reliance on the Lord. During the chaos of the holidays, it’s easy to place unrealistic expectations on your spouse or to let frustration slip out in moments of stress. Often, we show more grace to acquaintances or extended family than the one we’re closest to.
This Christmas, let’s change that. Let’s take on the challenge to love our spouse as Ephesians 2:3 and Philippians 2:3-4 call us to love—with humility, selflessness, and grace. Let’s make them the first recipient of this kind of love, ensuring they feel valued and cherished amidst the holiday season.
As you navigate the Holidays together, bless your spouse with kindness, patience, and encouragement. After all, the greatest gift you can give is a love that reflects Christ’s love in your marriage.
