Written By Ryan and Ashlie Cook.

Everyone struggles with the question of purpose during the course of their life. From an early age we are asked, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” We spend our college and young adult years trying to “find ourselves” and carve out our path in the world. At each point of decision and challenge we often wonder what we’re truly supposed to be doing. Is this the right path for me? Am I fulfilling my purpose?

Well, the area of marriage is no stranger to this very challenge. Have you ever wondered what the purpose of marriage really is? Is it possible to even answer that question? Is marriage more than just raising a family? Is there a greater purpose beyond surviving the ups and downs on the roller coaster of life?

Back to the Beginning

Let’s go back to the beginning to find God’s purpose for marriage. See God created and designed everything. He made the world, the animals, the stars, and the institution of marriage. Everything has purpose, God created everything with a vision. We must re-discover what that purpose is so we can experience the blessing and oneness God intended for us in the new year.

Genesis 1:26-28

26 Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”

27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.

28 And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”

It Takes Faith

In the book, Two Becoming One, Faith Principle #1 says, “By faith we must commit to God’s purpose of reflecting His image, reproducing a Godly heritage, and reigning in spiritual warfare.” (2B1 WB p. 13)

If your marriage is struggling it probably has something to do with not fulfilling one or more of God’s purposes for your marriage. If you are constantly criticizing or blaming each other you are not reflecting God’s image of love. If you are not investing in the spiritual maturity of your children you are not reproducing a Godly heritage. If you are not praying together regularly as a married couple then you are not able to effectively reign in the spiritual warfare going on in our fallen world.

Some Practical Steps:

  • Take some time with your spouse as you start the new year and read Genesis 1:26-28. Maybe even read it once a day for the rest of January.

  • Spend time memorizing Faith Principle #1 together.

  • As you do so be honest and evaluate how you are doing in fulfilling God’s three main purposes for marriage.

  • Rate your effectiveness in each area from 1-10. Consider why you are doing well in an area and address how to improve in your weakest one.

  • Consider picking up a copy of Two becoming One and a workbook. This can be a great tool to go over together and learn more practical ways to pursue God’s purpose for your marriage.

“God’s intention for marriage is clear. Every marriage is a part of His plan. God is unchanging (Hebrews 13:8). Therefore, His plan for marriage is unaltered. Either we will follow His purposes and experience marital unity and harmony, or we will not fully experience the blessing He intends in marriage. It is our choice.”

(Two Becoming One, Leader Guide p.11)


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